25-35 is the age that if you are in struggling to development phase during this age then you find it very difficult to share it seeking solutions from others.
For example, currently I am facing huge struggles, obstacles and complication in my PhD due to lack of proper amenities, toxic research culture, politics on may levels and layers, egos and corruptions involved, untimely delays, resource allocations, and then in the end complex, unpredictable, and weird support and supervision as well.
There's too much stress at the work place. Add to that, I am literally suffering from too many prolonged injuries since past four years, now the pain is becoming severe day by day, and I have developed new issues as well. I suffer from herniated spinal slip disc issue, which is severely affecting my neck, spine, lower back, and my kneee. Then I have achilles tendons, and heel pain issues from past three years due to past many basketball and football injuries. I had minor accident accident also once which affected my back, right leg, and my left shoulder.
Now it is not these medical issues which are constraints or saddening. It's the fact that due to these issues, my progress in life is even more delayed. By this age I had plans of settling down, marrying, taking my parents for tours and taking medical care of them, aiding my sister to progress in life, and helping my girlfriend achieve her dreams as well. Everything is delayed.
Another issue or point of emphasis in the current writeup I desire to put on is there is big paradox and setback currently.
You cannot share or clearly discuss these issues with parents. It makes them extremely stressful and then their health takes a big toll. The ambiance becomes toxic at home, especially when my father starts overthinking due to these issues. My mother though tries to ignore and avoid these aspects through involvement with friends and household chores, cooking etc. Yet when it comes down to health and medical aspects she also starts losing hope and becomes pessimist and sick.
Sister herself is facing lot of issues medically as well as mentally. Her hormonal and mental issues are hindering her mental and career progress. She is still too immature to understand parents situation and household condition. Plus I also don't want to put much pressure on her give the frequent suicides the current generation is prone to. It has become so easy for them to choose this path.
Cannot share with girlfriend as well. As she has her own ongoing multiple issues. She has to take care of her parents, being a single child. Then manage the marriage expenses, prepare for job switch, and she herself has her own mental and medical issues. Additionally, the rules, regulations, and unreasonable expectations of the society adds on to the current miseries.
With current societal breakdowns, you would never want to share it with friends as currently it is so difficult to trust anyone as when they may change. No one is deeply involved in friendship and there won't be that level of mental understanding and bonding due to personal issues, responsibilities or typical human nature and society culture.
So all in all
You are on your own. Just raise the standards of your miseries, elevate your mindset, be optimistic, and keep carrying forward with no options, last resort, or choice left. One has to do everything on their own. No one comes to the rescue or even to the support or understanding. One has be to spirituallt faithful and rise.
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