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Positive vs Negative response

 7th March 2024


A thought just hit my mind today.

Like I am suffering a lot of challenges and obstacles in getting married to my long time girlfriend. She has been with me in all the ups and downs since a decade now. However, just because we belong to an orthodox Indian society divided on caste, color, culture, region, religion, and multiple other differences, one has to suffer a lot on multiple stages in many aspects while taking important decisions in life.

My girlfriend belongs to a different caste, and is from another state and will surely bring an entirely different set of culture and mindset with her when she will be marrying me.

Parents mainly remain scared due to cultural differences, perspective issues, and the part where there are high chances of huge toxicities and arguments which can adversely affect the harmony of the families. 

In India, the marriage is never between the two individuals. Parents from both sides are involved, then the relatives comes in the picture and so does the society which is filled with many orthodox meanness and loopholes. The society is doomed in so many ways and toxic standards that it will take ages to jot down all the loopholes. 

What however, should be the scenario is, people should live and let live the whole society. People should learn to be spiritual and endure, engulf, and appreciate others' happiness and joy. One should learn to respond and behave positively on the top note, take mature and amicable decisions. 

In my scenario, what I am thinking to do is even if the society is doomed and reluctant to my happiness, if the people do get involved and even if act of being happy and kind, I can overwhelmingly thank them for their kindness and show them the gratitude in full expressions so they learn to be mature and develop a big heart. 

If two individuals are understanding and in love with each other, it is more than enough above everything else. If they have the understanding to support, encourage, and behave properly with each other, dwell with each other, respect each other and their differences on all aspects, plus have the capability of maturely and calmly dealing with all sort of dramatic and difficult situations, that is sufficient for their marriage to sustain. It should excel over everything. If they have the understanding of their cultural and parental differences as well, and gracefully accept, endure, and most importantly LAUGH about everything together, they can live successfully and peacefully. The most important is to laugh and be joyous and cheerful soul with spirituality. Rest other things are part and parcel of life. 

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